This is the erotic reclamation experience you've been praying for if...
...you hear about other people's sexual experiences and wonder what's wrong with you that you can't relate - but deep down you know there's a version of sex that would set you on fire, if you could only find the key.
...your mind goes to dark fantasies during intimate moments, shame chasing hot on their heels - and you're ready to stop running from your own imagination and start meeting it.
...you freeze when a nice new lover asks what turns you on, because how could a decent person like them ever understand? You're done shrinking yourself to fit someone else's idea of normal.
...you yearn to find someone who loves and respects all of you - and you're ready to stop waiting for permission and start being all of you first.
...you feel dissociated or disconnected from your body during sex - and you're hungry to come home to the full, vivid aliveness you know is in there.
...you're a cycle-breaker trying to be the parent you wish you'd had, but when your kid asks about sex your throat seizes up - and you want to become the person who can hold that conversation with grace, because your child deserves a parent who isn't afraid of pleasure.
...you feel caught between the pressure to be respectable and the pressure to be s3xual - and you're ready to blow up that false binary and trust your own desires.
...the sex you see on shows and in porn leaves you cold, and you're done worrying what that says about you - you want to discover what lights you up on your own terms (spoiler: you aren't the problem).
...you value consent, but inside your own mind your erotic imagination feels out of control - and you want to learn how to hold the reins without pulling so tight you kill the ride.
...there are deep, dark conversations burning inside you that you're longing to bring into the light - and you want a space fierce and safe enough to hold them.
...you've already done enough therapy to understand your traumas, and now you want to go where therapy can't take you and reclaim your eroticism with someone who won't flinch.
For that, you don't need a therapist. You need a trauma-informed coach who's done 20 years of sex work.
SIGN ME UP
"I've worked with a lot of therapists over the years and Blake has an exceptional therapeutic capacity. In the sessions I've had with them I've felt so solidly yet effortlessly held by their lively and interested energy. And their attunement to me and capacity to intuit what might be helpful has meant that each session has been a really significant step forward for me. I can't recommend them highly enough."
Dr Arianne Bloodwood
In here, no pain and no pleasure is too big to talk about.
You know that closed door in your imagination that you've never dared open?
It's time to find out what's behind it.
So many people spend their whole lives having sex without admitting to themselves that door is even there.
Most sexuality teachers don't talk about it. They're rarely trauma-informed - and sometimes actively re-traumatising. (No, I'm never going to a workshop led by a sleazy male 'guru' again either. )
This stuff is still so unspeakable that even most therapists haven't integrated their own sexual shadow - so how can they possibly handle conversations about how our traumas and our turn-ons intersect?
You deserve a healing space that can hold all of you, so that you can finally feel whole, with no part left behind.
There's a reason it sometimes feels like your body is betraying you.
There's a reason some of your desires feel like that reckless friend you know you shouldn't hang out with - but you do it anyway. Thrilling. Untrustworthy. Dangerous.
There's a reason there are things you've never told anyone - not even when your nice new lover asks you what you want. How could a decent person like them ever understand?
Everyone should know this - but most people don't.
It's not because you're broken.
It's not because you're "too much".
It's not because pleasure is a sin.
(And no, you don't need to awaken your kundalini either.)
It's because *sexual* arousal and *nervous system* arousal are SOOOO similar... they often get mixed up.
It's time to descend into your erotic underworld, face your demons, and turn your darkest fantasies from an oh no to a FUCK YES.
I'M IN
WILL ANYONE ELSE FIND OUT I'M DOING THIS?
What you share is up to you. Although many of us in the group may share experiences of trauma, you won't be asked to revisit distressing memories or talk about them if you don't want to.
WILL I HAVE TO TALK ABOUT THINGS I DON'T WANT TO?
We're building a community, so your participation is warmly encouraged, but you're welcome to use a pseudonym, and/or keep your camera turned off if you prefer not to show your face during calls. Calls will be recorded so people can catch up on the replay if they can't make it live, but the replays will only be shared privately within the group. You are welcome to talk about your own experiences of the group outside it, but I ask that you respect confidentiality and refrain from sharing others' stories.
WHO ELSE WILL BE IN THE GROUP?
This experience is for feminists, survivors, and people with conflicted feelings about taboo turn-ons. People of all genders are welcome. I'll be screening all applications personally to ensure that everyone who joins is a good fit and agrees to uphold the guidelines and boundaries of the space.
WHAT HAPPENS IF BOUNDARIES ARE BROKEN?
Everyone in the group is expected to uphold the guidelines and boundaries of the group, which will be discussed during your intake call. If anyone behaves disruptively I will gently interrupt and attend to the disruption using authentic relating before bringing the group back on track. If there are repeated disruptions I will provide individual support as needed outside the group calls.
